What makes a home a home?
I love scrolling through Instagram and pinning beauty as much, maybe even more, than most people. There's nothing so satisfying as a gorgeous well put together home space, delicately balanced with the right ratios of colour, texture, shape, space, or other elements that make good design what it is. But the truth is that not everyones house can be a pinterest board. Not even mine, and I'm a designer! The elegance, beauty and balance in these images is no accident, it is careful constructed either over time, or with lots of money, so we can't fall into the trap of comparison.
Sometimes my house has plenty of clear space, well placed decor, beautiful light, and I may even find an instagrammable vista that doesn't have a toy or a book or a strewn piece of clothing in it! But it can never be perfect all the time. Or even most of the time, so please don't be fooled by the beauty you see in your feed! We can love good design, appreciate a tidy and well decorated house, but we should never put the expectation on ourselves to keep it all together like that even for half of the time. ESPECIALLY if you have kids. It's too hard a slog to keep a home tidy, beautiful and well decorated. Some people can, I take my proverbial hat off to that, but I'll be honest, right now, our 2bed apartment, where we live as a family of four, is nowhere near what I'd like it to be. There is a bunch of clutter around our bedroom, like for example, clothes I hate, but haven't got to getting rid of. I just want to let you off the hook, and tell you what I think makes a home a home. Clue: it's more important than a photo worthy view.
We all have to go easier on ourselves in the house keeping department. It's never going to end, so lets not strive so hard for the standard of excellence required for a Home and Garden shoot. Sometimes, it might be better to just take a break, grab a cup of tea, sit down, and enjoy the space and the belongings, in all their chaotic glory. Think about how lucky you are to have these items. Which brings me to my next point.
That tea, and that time, is important for your soul and wellbeing. I have to stop myself mid frenzy sometimes, and just choose 1 task, finish that, and then take the time to recoup some energy. Now, don't get me wrong, I believe the objects and surrounds around you can play a major part in the wellbeing of a human, but thats a journey to work on, and we'll talk about that another day.
Above all, what are homes for? HUMANS! So (preaching to myself here) let's try and lift the connection to first priority. Then work through the other things that might bother you or you want to change. If you're like me, and freak about having guests over, and try and fix everything and tidy up before they arrive, you should know this.
Real friends don't care about that.
Take a breath and move a few things off the couch so you can sit down together.
Let the annoyance of unfolded washing diminish with the requests of play from little humans.
Allow a hug and a kiss to be more important than getting breakfast ready or making the bed.
And overall I think that less stuff = less overwhelm = more breathing = more energy and time for talking and connecting. But lets address that another day.
For now, just start thinking about what's really important for YOUR home.